Wednesday, May 17, 2017

R is for Rock & J for Jewel!

(MFW K Units 17-18)

Skipper has been waiting allll year for this unit, as the child is obsessed with jewels!
sensory bin: the little stones were on clearance at Target. I added craft jewels, some toy jewelry and later some real arrowheads!
Crystal Mining kit was so fun!
here's what comes in it

more alphabet BINGO
chalk J's
lots of rocks
making jeweled crowns. I also bought some wire & beads for them to make bracelets to send to the women in their lives.

making play-doh rocks

Z is for Zebra

(My Father's World, Kindergarten, Unit 16)

Apparently, I got 1 pic from the Kangaroo unit, so I'm skipping that one. Sorry about that!  

I wanted to add that we have this book from last year's Sonlight, and most of what we learned this year, we hadn't covered last year, so I used those pages that matched each unit to go over with the boys.

painting zebras (pattern)
painting some forest animal plaques from Hobby Lobby
Letter Bingo (MFW)

Life Happens...
Super Dad & I got away for a weekend to the Hill Country for our anniversary.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

The Pearls, revisited

I wrote a review of Michael and Debbie Pearl here. The media is attacking them again recently because of the association the Williams family claimed to have with their publications. The story of the death of Hana Williams can be found here. First, let me be clear that I do NOT blame the Pearls for the death of Hana Williams. I'm sure there were many factors involved, but I cannot pretend to be able to analyze all the reasons psychopaths like the Williams have for their horrid crimes. I have actually defended the Pearls  against overly zealous critics who have not even read their materials and accuse them of promoting the brutal beatings of children. They don't; I can assure you. But when did we as Christians lose the ability to discern that even though something isn't horrible, it isn't the best way?

So I DO blame the Pearls for MANY things, and that's what this post is about. I am not a typical Pearls critic either. I'm a Christian who has read their material, who believes in training my children to obey, yes even through the means of sp@nkings. Let's not pretend all of their critics are the same. I have met several who are just like me.
I had read a lot of their book To Train Up a Child, but not all of it, so I decided to start. The book can be found online here.

Here are some quotes that weren't in my original review of them.

"They play together well, resolve their own conflicts and don't expect attention when one turns the rocking horse over and gets a knot on her head." So the first thing they do is set up unrealistic expectations. These children were young; can we really expect not to have to get up and ever help them resolve a conflict or discipline them for not resolving it correctly? These unrealistic expectations can create anger and guilt in a parents' life. The second part astounds me. I WANT my kids to know they can come to me for a hug and comfort when they hurt themselves. Since when is this unacceptable? Who are the Pearls to say we as parents shouldn't be doing this? Is it in the Bible?

"Proper training always works on every child." Again, unrealistic expectations. Either you or your child is a failure if this isn't true with your family. I'm sorry, do the Pearls live in the Garden of Eden? Because I don't. My children and I are fallen. EVEN IF this statement were true about my children, NO parent can do it perfectly! What then are we left with? This also explains why the Pearls are against adopting older children, since those children are past the "training age" they are impossible rejects who God can't reach (those aren't their words, but it absolutely IS the implication of that policy., and it is in DIRECT opposition to James 1:27 and a lot of other verses.) Adopted children will ruin your perfect family.

"You should be able to take a nap and expect to find the house in order when you wake." The context is talking about crawling babies. Again, unrealistic expectations, and very unsafe!

The practice of switching a 4 MO appears in the first chapter. I had not repeated this claim because I had not read it for myself, and frankly didn't believe it, but there it is.

" at home almost entirely eliminates the need for discipline--especially public discipline. Yet, should the need arise in public, do a flanking maneuver and administer it; then go home and train so that it never again happens in public." That's not what the Bible says. The Bible would not need to mention discipline if training were all that were needed. Again, unrealistic. If people are told they must train their child so that "it never happens again," I can totally see how this could lead to very harsh treatment. That's a tall order, "never happens again."

"Everyone's happiness was at stake, as well as the soul of the child." This is about a training session with a 12 MO. You see how the language takes everything up to a completely different level? I agree, training is important! I can influence my children greatly by how I discipline them. But their salvation is NOT my job! Repeat after me, "I can help lead my children to or away from God by how I treat them, but their salvation is NOT MY JOB!" It's not their job either. It's only and completely GOD'S JOB. I think part of the problem is that their theology is a little off in this area. ONE training session is not going to seal the fate of my child's soul! Heaven forbid the Pearls make parents into gods and have them carry that a huge stress they were not meant to carry! (There are other quotes like this one in the book.)

"Mother, if you think the father is too forceful in his discipline, there is something you can do. While he is away demand, expect, train for and discipline to receive instant and complete obedience from your children. When the father comes home the house will be peaceful and well ordered. The children will always obey their father, giving him no need to discipline them." This is an example of their taking submission by the wife too far. I agree that the mother should make sure she's training for obedience, but Matthew 18 has another course of action for a wife whose husband is in clear sin, and if there's any reason to use Matthew 18, child abuse should be it!

"Since this whining and crying to get his way is eventually going to lead to the mother being annoyed with the child, it is better, regardless of the mother's feelings, to break this tendency before it gets rooted and becomes a personality habit. Just think! A child who never begs, whines or cries for anything!" The context here is talking about infants being put to sleep. If you are training your infant not cry "for anything" you are taking away his ONLY means of communication. How else would you suggest he communicate? I DO get annoyed when my baby refuses to sleep when I think he's supposed to or when he wakes in the night. Part of parenting is being able to handle my annoyances with self-control and still responding in love and patience even when it's inconvenient for ME. Oh, how I would LOVE a world where infants and even toddlers never whine and cry for anything, but that kind of world would not help me grow into a less and less selfish person! It is NOT always better to train something out of a child JUST because a parent may be annoyed with it. Sometimes we as parents need to get over OURSELVES and serve the "least of these," which infants definitely are.

"My nine- and eleven-year-old daughters came in from a neighbor's house complaining of a young mother's failure to train her child. A seven-month-old boy had, upon failing to get his way, stiffened, clenched his fists, bared his toothless gums and called down damnation on the whole place. At a time like that, the angry expression on a baby's face can resemble that of one instigating a riot. The young mother, wanting to do the right thing, stood there in helpless consternation, apologetically shrugged her shoulders and said, "What can I do?" My incredulous nine-year-old whipped back, "Switch him." The mother responded, "I can't, he's too little." With the wisdom of a veteran who had been on the little end of the switch, my daughter answered, "If he is old enough to pitch a fit, he is old enough to be spanked.""  A 7 MO is incapable of defiance, of purposely disobeying. Furthermore, they are incapable of connecting their actions to a consequence. They simply don't have the mental capacity. PLEASE don't EVER "switch" any child younger than 18 months. It can't be anything but damaging.

"If a parent starts at infancy discouraging the first crying demands, the child will never develop a habit. In our home a fit was totally unknown because the first time it was tried it proved counterproductive." It is almost impossible to tell the difference between an angry "fit" and a crying for needs to be met until the age of 18 months. Please err on the side of caution!

Monday, May 15, 2017

P is for Penguin!

(MFW Kinder, Unit 14)

P is for Penguin dot sticker sheets. (You can use any little circular item to place on the dots.)

Tracing letters in a salt tray.

Coloring their penguin badge
sound sorting
Polar animals sensory bin

Life Happens...
There are pit bulls in our neighborhood that keep getting out. They attack our cats, and almost killed one of them. Skipper was scared, and he came out and laid by his cat. Little Protector.

Sunday, May 14, 2017

E is for Elephant! (+ songs for all Kinder lessons!)

(MFW K Lesson 15)

The MFW Teacher's Guide includes songs for some of the weeks but not all, so I added those in. Some are specifically for kids, and some are just worship songs they really enjoyed. Here are the links! 

Sun: Light of the World
Moon: This Little Light of Mine
Leaf: Read Your Bible, Pray Everyday\
Apple: Fruit of the Spirit
Nest: Good, Good Father
Turtle: Won't Back Down (ok, not Christian, but it goes with the theme. The boys loved it!)
Us: Oh, Be Careful...
Dinosaur: Review
Octopus: Allelu, Allelu, Allelu, Allelujah, Praise Ye the Lord
Water: Deep & Wide or Spring up Oh Well
Insect: This is the way we...
Goat: Nothing but the Blood
Cow: B-I-B-L-E
Horse: Trust & Obey
Elephant: STOP & Let me tell you
Penguin: 1 John 4:7-8
Kangaroo: God of Angel Armies
Zebra: Review
Rock: Wise Man Built His House upon the Rock
Jewel: Lord, You Are...
Butterfly: I just thank you Father for making me me (I had this album as a kid! It's not really about the theme, but it is called "The Butterfly Song"!)
Frog: We sang "Oh Be Careful..." again, but with "tongue what you say, emphasized.
Fox: Review
Vegetables: Review
Quail: Give Thanks
Yellow: We sang, "This is my Father's World" again. This is also the song for the Creation Unit. Love this song!

He actually made these at his great church PreK program he goes to once a week, so I can't take credit.
He got out brother's abacus from Right Start Math on his own to play with.
number match puzzle, similar to this
hands-on letter activity was letter cookie cutters

He loves these cuisinaire pages & blocks!

Sound sorting
dot-to-dot elephant for Math

Life Happens...

Sometimes we dress up as 4 characters in one! Gotta do what you gotta do to protect your semi-suburban home from invaders!

Friday, May 5, 2017

H is for Horse!

(MFW lesson 14)
Not too many pics from this week, sorry! 
Here are some more horse ideas:
Parts of a horse
Clothespin horse craft

making a horse card for his great-grandmother

Life happens...

working on his Apologia Chemistry & Physics Jr. Notebook